Anniversary gifts that will take her breath away: an anniversary gift guide that brings a fresh perspective and puts a new twist on traditional anniversary gifts.
Anniversary gift shopping got you down? You're not alone. We talk to spouses every day who are trying to find a traditional anniversary gift for their partner but keep seeing the same old antiquated advice. What if we told you that there's another way?
We wrote this guide to help you shop for your partner in a new way, one that is guided but not bound by tradition. If you would never dream of giving the woman you love a "Mrs. Always Right" coffee mug or a decorative plate; this guide is for you.
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Anniversary Gift Traditions
Some well-meaning modern interpretations of traditional anniversary gifts fall short of being thoughtful or romantic. For a couple's first anniversary, traditionally marked with gifts of paper, you might see advice suggesting that cash or a check is an appropriate gift. While those sharing this suggestion might have the best of intentions, cash from a shared bank account can hardly be considered a gift. The old saying is true: it's the thought behind the gift that matters. The reverse is also true, however: if you don't put any thought into your gift, your gift reveals your thoughtlessness.
When our customers ask us to help them make heads or tails of wedding anniversary gift traditions, we suggest an approach that puts their partner's personality and lifestyle in the foreground and incorporates traditional elements into the gifts they choose. If you read our last post, you'll even recall that we have a simple question to ask before you start shopping: What does my partner want more than anything right now, and how can I incorporate tradition into that gift?
Read our Year by Year Guide to Anniversary Gifts to get the complete list of traditional and modern anniversary gifts by year.
Thoughtful Wedding Anniversary Gifts for Her
For the first fifteen years of marriage and every fifth anniversary thereafter, the traditional anniversary gift list offers a material that is meant to serve as the basis for the gift. These materials are commonly believed to grow in strength with each year of marriage. The contemporary anniversary gift list offers readymade gifts for years 1-60 and aligns with the traditional materials in milestone years. A link to both lists in their entirety can be found at the end of this section.
Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gifts for Her
Milestone anniversaries, beginning with the 25th anniversary gift of silver, are typically the easiest to translate into a modern and relevant anniversary gift, as the materials are commonly found in jewelry. Aided by the question "What does my partner want, and how can I integrate this material into that gift?" you can arrive at relevant, thoughtful, and memorable gift ideas for her for any year, such as those that follow each of these possible answers:
My partner wants more time to relax:
2nd anniversary, Cotton: A warm blanket, comfortable loungewear, fuzzy socks, a new book, and a cup of tea may be the recipe for relaxation for your partner. If this sounds like your wife, a gift basket that you create just for her is a thoughtful way to incorporate cotton into your wholly personalized gift.
My partner wants to have fun:
35th anniversary, Coral: The decline of coral reefs has reached a critical stage, and experts believe they could be gone entirely in thirty years. Many jewelers will not make coral jewelry, and many people are not comfortable wearing even vintage coral jewelry, as a result. Your 35th anniversary can still incorporate this material, however, with a trip to any of the remaining coral reefs for snorkeling and scuba diving. It's important to note that there are necessary precautions to take when swimming at or near coral reefs, so make sure you do your research and hire a professional for any excursions that might bring you into intentional or accidental contact with them.
My partner wants to update her wardrobe:
50th anniversary, Gold: Unless you know of a specific item and the exact size your partner wants, and it is an item that she otherwise would not buy for herself, don't buy your wife clothes for an anniversary. Especially when the anniversary is a milestone anniversary, such as your Golden Anniversary, which can be marked instead with gifts of gold jewelry. Pay attention to the jewelry she wears to determine if you should buy her white gold, rose gold, or yellow gold.
Shop white gold anniversary jewelry:
White gold and diamond anniversary band with rose gold accents
Vintage-inspired 18K hand-engraved filigree diamond eternity band
Gemini 18k white gold necklace with bezel-set diamonds
Shop yellow gold anniversary jewelry: